Basic Money Lessons Everyone Should Know

Where should we learn how to handle money? School. But we don’t. Instead, what you know or don’t know about finances stems from a number of factors: how you were raised and what you learned from friends, financial advisors, a spouse, random Internet searches, and so on.
Which leads to money habits that aren’t ideal.
So we talked to the pros to find out what you should have learned in school. Here’s what they said.
1. How to think about money
Many people have complicated feelings about money from being intimidated by it, to associating wealth with being greedy, to hating it. This can lead to the thinking that finances shouldn’t be a priority. In order to change your attitude from apathetic or apprehensive to proactive, you must first understand your emotions and preconceived feelings.
We pick up emotional messages about money from a very young age long before we understand what money is. Ask yourself: How do you feel about money? About your ability to earn it, save it, manage it wisely? If you don’t feel positive, you are not going to have a very positive experience in your financial life.
The goal is to get to a place where you actively care about finances and don’t feel a sense of guilt for doing so.
You must control your money on a constant, day-to-day basis, and once you start doing this, you should never stop. The feeling of being in control of your money and your life is priceless.
2. Talk about money
Of course, talking about money with a spouse or a parent, for example is often harder than thinking about it. But it must be done. Money communication experts say that most couples talk about money only when they’re in crisis situations, if at all.
Instead, learn to regularly discuss money so it becomes less taboo, frustrating, or fight inducing. Many couples who are successful with their finances set a regular ‘money date’ once a quarter. Planning a quiet evening over a relaxing dinner or coffee and dessert is a good start. It beats trying to talk about your spending right after fighting about the credit card bill. Talking about money with family as parents age, for example, you may find yourself discussing finances with them or your siblings to figure out caregiving options might not happen as often, but it requires the same thoughtfulness.
In families, financial conversations can get heated and judgmental, with one person feeling he or she is right and someone else is stupid or incompetent or irresponsible. Think of the acronym HALT, as in, don’t try to have a money conversation when someone is hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. And avoid numbers and legalese at least at first. Instead, start getting comfortable talking about finances in more general terms.
3. How to live within your means
To really live at a level, you can afford, you have to modify your lifestyle slightly and live below your means. This is really the key to financial success. There are so many ways to live comfortably without spending every penny, but this lesson eludes so many.
Look at your budget and spending habits as a project that requires ongoing monitoring and occasional adjustments. For example, if you keep tabs on where your discretionary spending is going, you can evaluate how to reallocate some of that impulse or unnecessary spend toward saving for a meaningful goal like a down payment on a home or a great trip. Hold yourself accountable with an app, a journal, an accountability partner, whatever works to keep you on track.
Living below your means might mean finding fulfillment from things that money can’t buy, or buying a used car, a smaller house, and clothing from the sales racks. But it could also mean spending less on the little stuff. How many times do we stop for a latte, forget to pack a lunch, or grab a couple of extra things while standing in line to pay at the register?
4. How to better budget
Most people equate the word ‘budget’ to crash dieting, where you’re sacrificing your short-term comfort and denying yourself specific pleasures, the ultimate goal of financial or physical health might not be enough to sustain the denial cycle.
Instead, look at a “balanced budget” the way you would a balanced diet: Managing your money effectively is a lifestyle, not a quick fix.
A strategy for staying on track and not feeling deprived is to budget month to month. In fact, money disorder experts suggest having three budgets low, medium, and high and deciding at the start of each month which one you’re on.
Low budget is if you are making less money or saving for something special like a down payment on a house or a car. Medium budget is the money you’re making right now and how you’re spending it, and high budget is your dream budget [when more money is coming in]. Anyone can do low budget for a month it’s when you think you have to do it for a lifetime that people give up.
5. How to prioritize your spending
Identify what truly matters to you when it comes to how you want to spend your money. Maybe it’s your living space, traveling, going out to concerts, make sure you plan for that first. If you rent an expensive apartment, you’ve made the decision that a bunch of your income is going toward your living space, make sure that is truly what is most important to you.
If you feel like you’re not spending your hard-earned cash in a way that’s making you happy, start paying closer attention.
One way to help you spend wisely and make sure your budget and goals match your spending actions, is to have two spending accounts: one for necessities and one for discretionary spending (a.k.a. needs vs. wants). This way, you can keep better track of the fun stuff and make sure you’re spending money where you want to.